Ladies, yesterday was the last day that we will apologize for what we want. Today and everyday henceforth, we will be dating and living life WITHOUT apology. This episode will provide insight, guidance and actionable tips on how to date in a way that empowers women to show up as their true authentic selves at every phase of dating by not compromising any of their wants, needs or deepest desires. Join Syd and, Jephonne Roy, as they share stories about their dating lives and how the lessons they’ve learned have helped them to be bold, fearless and downright unapologetic daters. 

Jephonne Roy is the “Roy” in Fairell Roy & Associates, a boutique Family and Personal Injury Law firm in Atlanta that is owned, lead and run by a team of black women. Jephonne leads the litigation division of the firm, helping the firm’s clients to navigate all of their divorce, child support, custody and personal injury needs.

If you want to connect with or learn more about Jephonne or Fairell Roy & Associates, you can find out more here: https://www.fairellfirm.com.

Show Notes

What is your dating philosophy?

Dating is gathering data. In order to make a competent decision about whether or not to continue dating a person, you need to ask very specific and direct questions as early as possible. You also need to be clear, direct and honest about the data that you are presenting to the other person.

What should we look for on a first date to determine whether a man is serious about dating?

The vibe—check to see if there is some chemistry between the two of you. Make sure that he is mentally stimulating you and that he seems genuinely interested in the conversation. If the vibe is right, Jephonne recommends asking specific questions as early as the first date to ensure that neither of you waste your time.

Some potential questions to ask are:

1. What are your goals for dating?
2. Are you interested in marriage?
3. How long do you believe in dating before marriage?
4. Do you have children?
5. Have you been married before?

What do you look for in a guy to determine whether you should go on a date with him?

All potential suitors should display the following before making it to a first date:

1. Consistency
2. Persistence
3. Effort

What is the biggest mistake women make when dating?

Over-Accommodating– Women tend to be over-accommodating in dating because of insecurity and fear of rejection. But the key to dating is setting a standard and/or boundary, giving the other person an opportunity to meet it and WALKING away FEARLESSLY when the standard is not met. Women are the prize. You do not have to bend over backwards to please a man. If he wants to date you, he will please YOU. He will meet YOUR standards.

Not being honest with themselves – It is important to be brutally honest with yourself about what YOU want, clearly communicating to your potential partners what you want and WALKING away from a potential partner if/when it becomes apparent he/she won’t be able to give you what you want/need. If you don’t want to wait around 2-3 years to get engaged, there’s no rule saying you have to.

What is your best advice for women who are still dating?

Be HONEST and UPFRONT at every stage of the process to weed out ALL THE MEN WHO DON’T DESERVE TO BE IN YOUR PRESENCE EARLY AND OFTEN.